Praetor

Husband and wife are focused on their relationship to make it grow deeper. As they become more focused on their relationship, the more they shrug off their own independence. They want to depend on one another; they want to consult with one another. They are not in competition with each other, fighting for control. They regard and treat each other as equal.

They don’t lose their own identity; on the contrary, with their focus on the relationship, the one enhances the identity of the other. The one helps to build the strong points of the other and to overcome the weaknesses of the other. They have the interests of the other at heart; they accept one another unconditionally with his/her faults and shortcomings.

They learn to reach out to the needs of their partner and give themselves to the benefit of the other. They seek to encourage one another, give praise where it is due to build up the other.

Is this too idealistic or is it attainable? What will it take to actually live like this?